when is it time to have the talk??

my daughter is nine years old…and a lot of kids in her school are more educated than she is with boys and such,,,Ive kept her as innocent as I could for as long as I can…but she is starting to get boy crazy and I know she is learning a lot at school…I dont think its like about the birds and the bees…I think its more just like what boys have that girls dont…but my husband and I are worried cause I know kids are different today then they were 10, 15 , 20 years ago….now keep in mind that my daughter is mature for her age….but when do you sit a child down and have the birds and the bees talk?
what age? or how mature mentally should they be??
thanks for all the answers..will be a great help!

9 Responses to when is it time to have the talk??

  1. you are never to young to know so i think you should talk to her know than its too late

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  2. never too young. my mom started explainging the differences between boys and girls when i was young, (2-4)
    explained about changes in puberty when i was 7
    periods when i was 9
    safe sex and boyfriends when i was 11 or 12
    so start when you think they need to talk

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  3. never too young. my mom started explainging the differences between boys and girls when i was young, (2-4)
    explained about changes in puberty when i was 7
    periods when i was 9
    safe sex and boyfriends when i was 11 or 12
    so start when you think they need to talk

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  4. My parents talked to me about that when i was like 7…….

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  5. you are the best judge, if you feel like should i or shouldn’t i

    you probably should. kids are way more aware of things than they were 10-15 years ago, you don’t want to take the chance of her getting bad information.

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  6. there are appropriate ways to explain this to children so i think its better for her to get the correct info from you instead of someone else. Even some books out there i think one is called where did i come from and hmmm well they are out there and they are helpful.

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  7. hmm. I think its time. It sounds like how u explain her maybe it was time awhile ago. Not to be mean.
    Good Luck.

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  8. Normally I would say to answer her questions at her level when she asks them. Answer basically unless she asks for more information or volunteers what her friends have said. It is a perfect opportunity for you to give her the correct information if her friend has not. At 9 or 4th grade, she could start her periods and she should know about that before it happens! So check with your library or local book store for a good book on the subject of growing up and have a mommy and me talk apart from the other members of your family. You may not be embarassed, but she will be if there are males present. Initially it will be best if you present this to her. If she still has questions you cannot answer, ask a nurse or doctor friend or other mother who has older daughters how they handled this subject.

    I am a nurse with over 40 years’ experience

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  9. well it sounds as if shes getting alot of this information from other kids her age anc chances are alot of the information she has is totally wrong. sit down and open yourself up to discussion instead of instruction. ask her what she already knows and then explain to her that there are alot of misconceptions about boys and girls. laugh about silly things you thought when you were her age. this type of disscussion will make her feel comfortable to open up and ask you questions when something is on her mind. most parents make the mistake of talking at rather than talking with.

    I am a nurse with over 40 years’ experience

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