Last Saturday, when I was staying at my gf Barbara’s place, we had a fight (or should I say she had a freakout) that ended up with her beating me up, breaking my cell, and locking me inside her place and forcing me to spend the night.
All this because she saw a text message on my cell from an old classmate of mine, whom I hadn’t seen in years and just happened to be in town this week, inviting me for lunch and thought I was cheating on her. I tried to explain her what was going on but she didn’t listen, she just went berserk. You can read up my previous questions if you want for more information.
Now, it doesn’t take a psychologist to realize this issue is deeply-rooted in her, and she probably became this way because of something that happened to her previously in life, but I have no idea what that might be, Barbara doesn’t like to talk about her past, and I honestly have no intentions of pressing the matter with her.
I have her friend Jean’s number, Jean and her have been friends since they were little children, I know Jean can tell me more about Barbara’s past and help me figure what’s wrong with her, maybe we can even work together to try and help her.
But I’m scared Barbara might find out and have another freakout, thinking I’m hitting on Jean (she’s makes me show her a registry of all my cellphone activity weekly).
Of course, I could use my fixed phone to contact her. Do you think I should do it? And how could I keep Barbara from finding out?
I know it would be easier to break up with her, but that’s just not how I work… once I find somebody I love, I can’t just let go of her, I was really, really happy with her before this happened.
Barbara is my queen, a loyal serf never leaves his queen, I can’t abandon her like that.