The story is very long, but I will not go into too much detail. My husband has always worked long hours and always has used his cell phone for business purposes (the company pays his bill). I would have never thought he would’ve never cheated on me but I received an e-mail from a ladies husband through myspace stating that my husband was having an affair with his wife. They were getting a divorce because of this and that he didn’t want to tell me until after I had my 3rd child and the holidays. His cousin (which works with this woman) informed him of the relationship. Supposedly she told her everything about their relationship. I checked his phone records and found out he was talking to this woman twice a day sometimes more. Which is no be deal because she was an agent for the laborers he needs for his jobs. But the conversations were always twenty minutes or more and they were talking on her personal cell. he also said he was talking to her son which worked part time with the company. The conversations were very lengthy and he never talked to her around me it was always when he was headed to work and when he was coming home but also when he was at work.Now, my husband never showed any signs of having an affair and I would have never checked his records till I received the e-mail. So, I did confront him only on the basis of this e-mail and phone records I know I should have waited to confront him till I had more concrete evidence but the anxiety was tearing me apart. I have to take care of three children, one being an infant. He completely denied it and I also spoke to the women who completely denied also, as expected. Well they both tried to say she was trying to get back at my husband for getting her fired because he could never get a hold of her(the cousin) for the people he needed. She was trying to set him up and ruin his relationship with me. The only proof I have is the phone records but it doesn’t prove anything, does it? I just don’t know what to to. We have been together for 7 years now been married for 5 he is 14 years older than me and when we first got together I was so thankful I met him, I thought since he was older I would never be cheated on. We had our problems in the beginning but things have been so good for us. He did cheat on a previous wife but that was something they both did. I just don’t know what to do, I want to believe him, I love him so much. He treats me like a queen and appreciates everything thing I do. Could someone really want to set him up, why would someone want to do that? I try to talk to family about it, but I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. I believe I’m becoming depressed. I need to pull it together for my kids they shouldn’t have to suffer because mommy is sad. Please any advice would be helpful!
to sugar glider….
The husband is supposedly already in the process of getting a divorce because of this. So he is no longer with her. He said it’s been going on since Oct 2008, or that is when he found out. I’m still trying to get more information before I say anything else to him. I’m not sure what I can do. He has already stopped all phone call to her from his cell. I don’t have money to pay for a p.i. I’m getting his text records sent to me soon, so I can see if they’ve been texting each other.
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I’m not going to read all thatshit, so I am going to say yeah, probably.
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so what, so he banged another chick. big deal.
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proberly!
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Yes he is. Have a good day!
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I would keep my mouth shut and pay more attention until I KNOW the truth. if you ask hime duh he will lie…that’s what they do.
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hire a PI or Cheaters…
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Yes he is and you will probably find out this has not been the first time. It is hard to except but think about those kids and get them away from that and get yourself a new start. Whether it is today tomorrow next year or 5yrs. from now the marriage is over so protect yourself and the kids.
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If you really love him, and try to make it work and forgive him.It is a good sign that you ask him about it. Now he knows that you know about it, and he will try to be more careful.
I know how you feel to be cheated on, but men will always be men.
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If he cheated on his previous wife changes are he has not stopped. It sounds like when you confronted him it was a case of he said she said. If you still suspect that he is cheating then you need to either gather up more evidence yourself or hire a private investigator. In the mean time talk to your clergyman or seek some counseling for your own sanity.
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Confront him on whether or not he is cheating.You’ve been married long enough to know when he’s lying or not.If he is lying to you, you should be thinking about what you want to do.I can’t remember where i read it,but it said if you are fairly a emotionally secure person, and you think your spouse is cheating,they probably are.Which means you are faced with some hard choices.If he admits it and you are interested in staying in the marriage,you need to ask him why he did it.At least from his perspective something is lacking in your marriage.Then again maybe he was just being a dog!
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okay i found the hole in the story. tell me if i am wrong and i will think on it some more.
the cousin is trying to get back at your husband for getting her fired. okay. but why would she bring her cousins wife into it? what did the wife do to deserve that? if the whole revenge thing is true, then the wife would take her husbands (the one who contacted you) because she was in on the whole scheme. do you see? does this make any sense?
there is no reason for the cousin to want to drag her cousins wife into this mess. either the wife did something to the cousin that they are not all sharing with you or this is a big freaking lie. and a bad one at that.
here is what you do, start doing some snooping. get some solid evidence. hire a PI if you have to. then shove the evidence in his face along with divorce papers. my personal opinion is this story is not true. i wouldn’t believe it if this is the story my husband told me this.
EDIT: that only leads me to think your husband is lying. i really see no reason for the cousin to want to break up her cousins marriage just because your husband got her fired.
good job getting the text records. i hope you get this resolved.
experience with liars. (no matter how good of a liar they are there is always a hole)
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