Everyone that I am close with tells me how much they hate me. But they call me all the time and want to hang out all the time. I’m not rich and generous so its not like they are using me. But they like to tell me how much they hate me. Is that normal? Do alot of people say that to close friends?
We live in Queens and all have MANY associates but we also have our small group of close friends, who all tell me in private situations how much they hate me. But then hit me up on my cell and/or facebook to hang out.
My mother, brother, and father have also told me about their serious sincere dislike for me. They also constantly want to hang out with me, and talk and watch movies on the couch with me.
WHY???
Maybe youre someone people love to hate. Maybe you have something that makes other people jealous, yet wanting to hang out with you, or maybe youre politically incorrect so people like you for being a “self proclaimed a-hole”.
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They want to be around you so they can “fix” you. Aren’t they always telling you what to do and how to be when they’re around you? And yes, hate is a very strong, nasty word. Unfortunately, sometimes it’s the only word that fits.
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Well maybe you do things that they all dislike such as bad habits doing ridiculous things or maybe even being destructive with your friends and family. These are just examples on maybe why they hate you if they despise you so much then ask them why tell them “Why do you dislike me so much?”.Then if you get information on why they hate you then try to improve on that!
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yes hate is a strong word. and why they would they want to use it in those terms that they are using it can be confusing have you ever asked them why if not you should
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I have a sister who loves to be “Little Miss Morality”. She adopts the orphan child but if you look carefully she never plays with her child – she “runways” her. She spends all her time with booking her schools, programs, buying her heaps of clothes and toys and to all appearances is the “Little Miss Perfect Churchy Lady” who – oh such a kind person, a pillar of society you know, she adopted a little orphan – is always “concerned” for her neighbour.
This horrid horrid horrid horrid excuse for a human is an undercutting jealous empty person who waits for her private moment and stabs in the back those she proclaims to be helping.
YOU are the project in the making. While these people undercut your sense of self confidence and your sense of happiness and devalue all your contributions they “runway” you as that pitiable creature that they magnanimously “include” into their world.
Watch out. You are being set up. Do not be dismayed by the fact that so many of them are doing the same thing. Predators work in packs. Start to educate yourself on controlling and abusive people. Abuse ALWAYS occurs in private and ALWAYS operates behind a mask of “nice guy”.
You may wish to read the books by Patricia Evans who has made it her specialty to unmask such creatures. You are not alone although you may feel isolated.
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