I need advice. I married my guy and knowing that he has a baby I still married him because I love him. But now Im having trouble with myself with the idea that his ex still wants him and careless about him being married to me. She still calls him (not baby related) tells him she loves him. She has paid his cell phone bill (he doesnt know I know, and he has 2 cell phones) so she can call him. I have asked him nicely to be honest and just tell her to be an adult and to move on, but that he will always be there for the baby. I have no problem with the baby. I only have a problem with her always trying to find ways to get to him. I ask him many times if he feels for her, that I would understand and leave, but he tells me he loves me and that she careless for him, but I have facts that she still wants to get with him. Im honestly afraid to loose him because I am not a drama queen and dont tell her anything how friends tell me to do so. I just hold back many things. but I feel like its hurting me and I wish I could just tell her to stop but I dont want trouble. Please advice.
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It’s a physical impossibilty that your husband’s mother is a baby.
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Oh my gosh, that’s terrible!
Have you tried talking to her?
I would confront her.
Good luck
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either ignore or tell you husband to chose
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Why on earth does he have a phone specifically for her to call? So you won’t know how much they talk? I’d end it at that.
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Trio nitro tuoline just waiting to be ignited!
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Actually, he’s the problem. He’s lying, sneaking around and leading her on. Talk to him, seriously. Ask him if he’d rather be free to pursue a relationship with her, or if he means the promises he made to you the day he married you. Don’t continue to be a doormat.
This isn’t about her, and it would be a foolish move for you to speak to her about this. You would give your power to her if you did so.
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She is not the problem here completely. He is also. He lets her call him for other things. He lets her tell him that he loves him. He lets her pay for his phone. He hides this from you, his wife. You cannot tell her to stop. That will just tell her that she is getting to you and she will try all the harder just to piss you off. She will also think that it is working on him. He needs to be the one to tell her and he has to be the one to set the boundaries.
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First of all, if he claims to love you so much, why does he have two cell phones and why is she paying the bill?
Stop holding back and confront him with the facts – anyone would have a problem with an ex phoning and confessing their love for their spouse, and they would have an even bigger problem if their spouse wouldn’t put a stop to it.
She has no respect for your relationship, but hopefully your husband does. Make him put a stop to any communication that isn’t child related. After all, there is nothing more they have to talk about.
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You have 3 options. You can ignore this woman since you have the man and he isn’t going back to her just because they have a child. Or you can tell him to get this straightened out right now by talking to her and telling her to back off or you can forget all the drama altogether and leave. You said yourself that you knew he had a baby and you married him anyway because you loved him. Is that enough? Sorry to say, these are the potential problems you face when you vow to spend the rest of your life with a man that will always have another woman in his life because of children. Good Luck
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Get into couples counseling with him and let it all out. I suspect he is being ultra nice to his ex so she won;t plays games and not let him see his child. He is being manipulated.
He should not take money gifts from her, nor should he be discussing anything except their child. He should hang up on her when she does this.
You two need to be on the same page. I sense he is a weak man who will not change. You might have to leave.
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You already HAVE trouble. If you withhold your feelings and fear confrontation, it’s likely costing you self respect. If he’s not telling you the truth about the cell phone and her invitations, that promotes distrust and disrespect. I suspect the three of you are “GWCs”:
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/gwc.htm
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/means.htm
That puts the baby at high risk of inheriting adult “wounds”
http://sfhelp.org/gwc/wounds.htm
http://sfhelp.org/alert/cycle_map.htm
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tell him you love him.
when you got married
you each read your vows
you are now each others family
she is not part of his family
the baby is
but she is not
if i were you
i would not even allow him to talk to her
and i would have him pick up the child only when you were present
this is some very shady behaivior
have some more pride and claim your man
let that hoe know he’s your man now
but be aware you may find some of your husbands secrets
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