My husband and I have been working hard to bring our marriage back into focus where it should be. He had an affair, more so an emotional online and then the calling, I dont think it ever got to the physical aspects. He said he was sorry, he didn’t and doesn’t want to leave. He says he loves me and our family. We had been doing some counseling for us and some counseling for each of us and how we feel. We still mostly are doing the each of us. We have come a long way and its been tough at times. He told this girl finally to stop calling, it took a while but he finally did. He told her that he needed to concentrate on us and her calls were causing problems. She said okay but she was worried about losing the friendship. It’s only been 3 weeks and she apparently called his cell phone twice just this week, he called her back but got her voicemail. He told me about it. He didn’t want me to be upset and didn’t want me to worry. The thing before is that this girl is a drama queen, there is always something terrible going on with her, which it isnt but she makes seem so dramatic. I think she has a roller coaster personality and tries to get people to feel sorry for her is why she doesn’t have many friends. I don’t want her drawing my husband back into her soap opera life again, I dont want her drawing this whole family back into it, there are others lives involved and she doesn’t see that. I will talk to my counselor but what would you do? When you truly love someone I think sometimes forgiveness comes alot easier than forgetting, especially when I got this little reminder.
The story is very long, but I will not go into too much detail. My husband has always worked long hours and always has used his cell phone for business purposes (the company pays his bill). I would have never thought he would’ve never cheated on me but I received an e-mail from a ladies husband through myspace stating that my husband was having an affair with his wife. They were getting a divorce because of this and that he didn’t want to tell me until after I had my 3rd child and the holidays. His cousin (which works with this woman) informed him of the relationship. Supposedly she told her everything about their relationship. I checked his phone records and found out he was talking to this woman twice a day sometimes more. Which is no be deal because she was an agent for the laborers he needs for his jobs. But the conversations were always twenty minutes or more and they were talking on her personal cell. he also said he was talking to her son which worked part time with the company. The conversations were very lengthy and he never talked to her around me it was always when he was headed to work and when he was coming home but also when he was at work.Now, my husband never showed any signs of having an affair and I would have never checked his records till I received the e-mail. So, I did confront him only on the basis of this e-mail and phone records I know I should have waited to confront him till I had more concrete evidence but the anxiety was tearing me apart. I have to take care of three children, one being an infant. He completely denied it and I also spoke to the women who completely denied also, as expected. Well they both tried to say she was trying to get back at my husband for getting her fired because he could never get a hold of her(the cousin) for the people he needed. She was trying to set him up and ruin his relationship with me. The only proof I have is the phone records but it doesn’t prove anything, does it? I just don’t know what to to. We have been together for 7 years now been married for 5 he is 14 years older than me and when we first got together I was so thankful I met him, I thought since he was older I would never be cheated on. We had our problems in the beginning but things have been so good for us. He did cheat on a previous wife but that was something they both did. I just don’t know what to do, I want to believe him, I love him so much. He treats me like a queen and appreciates everything thing I do. Could someone really want to set him up, why would someone want to do that? I try to talk to family about it, but I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. I believe I’m becoming depressed. I need to pull it together for my kids they shouldn’t have to suffer because mommy is sad. Please any advice would be helpful!
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The husband is supposedly already in the process of getting a divorce because of this. So he is no longer with her. He said it’s been going on since Oct 2008, or that is when he found out. I’m still trying to get more information before I say anything else to him. I’m not sure what I can do. He has already stopped all phone call to her from his cell. I don’t have money to pay for a p.i. I’m getting his text records sent to me soon, so I can see if they’ve been texting each other.
Right now I am confuse with my wife. I work overseas and I have not seen my wife for 5 months and I talk to her almost everyday but she had an affair while I was over here and she admit to the affair and said that she was going to call it off with the guy and that was cool but I just don’t know if she really did it or not. I ask her if she was still in love with me and she said yes she was so I think that is a good thing but then I have notice one time that I was talking to her and her cell phone rung and she answer it and told me to hold on but she put me on mute and once she got back on the phone I ask her y did she do that and she said because she was taking an important business call and all of a sudden start telling me that I don’t have to listen to her conversation and I thought i was her affair friend which she told me it was not because he has a different ring tone for that but she said that he has a life and she does to which means she is not messing with him or seeing him that is what she is telling me. I know she will always love me because she have kids together and I try to treat her like a queen which that is what she is to me. She even got my first and last name tattooed on her and before we hang up we both tell each other that we love one of another. My question is if I ask her is she still in love with me and she says yes am I okay and also if she says that we are going to take it one day at a time what does that mean from a woman stand point. Does that mean she wants to date other people or just see where this relationship is going or she wants to work it out.
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