I’m 28 years old. My Sister is 33. She has a 5 year old son. Now, my sister and I live in Atlanta ( Seperately) . Our Mother and Father Moved back to our home state last year.. Baltimore. Around New Years this of this year, my sister and her husband started having some major problems. Their Son, is mentally handicapped. And her Husband apparently took that pretty hard. Over the last 5 years his life has been spiraling out of control. He had a Job, worked at a university. Was a professor… Well, Back in January. He drove to a hotel in the middle of the night,checked in for 2 days. On the 3rd day, he jumped out of the window of his Hotel room. Landed on the Enterence, Canopy thing, bounced off, broke a few bones nothing major… Me Personally I think it was just a stunt, i think he had no intention on killing himself. I think both of them are Drama Queens. Though he did jump out of a 6 story window, I personally think he would have looked at where he was landing if he meant to kill himself.
After that incident, he was hospitalized. Basically declared insane by a doctor, and was on leave from work, but was still getting paid because they gave him some job he could do at home, with much less pay, . My mother and sister were talking 24hrs a day. My mother is calling me talking to me about my sisters problems. Telling me she is telling my sister to leave him. I told my mother there will be a lot of issues if she does leave him, that she needs to think about all of the pro’s and con’s to this situation. Both my sister and her husband, now that he got a Job @ home away from the school. Cause they don’t want him there, combined earn about 60k . Well, my sister takes her son, and leaves him!!! Doesn’t even take her Computer, He packs all their stuff and flies back to his parents house in NYC. That happened in February. Fast foward to now, My sister is poor as hell. Is always asking me to baby sit for her because she can’t afford a baby sitter. My mother calls me every other day giving me this sob story about my sister, because she can’t afford a cell phone, or cable or internet. I told my Mother this is exactly what I was talking about before. I told my mother her husband needed to check into a mental institution for a few months. But no, my mother talked my sister into leaving him. Now, my mother is pressuring me to helping my sister out, To include.. Helping her Buy a New TV, Cable and Internet Service, and my mother wants me to add her to my wireless plan !!!! On top that, my sister has no Car! My sister has not asked me directly. But I feel this is not fair on me. I’m only 28 years old. I make about 45k a year. I have a girlfriend who has 2 kids of her own that I support as well.
PS- I got into a fight with my mom today. And She flipped out screaming at me on the phone about how I can spend loads of money on my girlfriends kids but I won’t help my sister. Even though I never said that I wouldn’t help her. All I said was this is what I was talking about when she was suggesting her leave him back in Feb. To Top this off, Luckily at my job I’m the supervisor of the department I work in. Therefore I make my own schedule. For the last month, I have been taking every Fri, Sat, and Sunday off. So I can baby sit for my sister, and my job is starting to get pissed that I’m gone every weekend. Those are the busiest days @ my sisters job. And when I do baby sit, I pay for everything for her son. Buy his dinner, take him to the movies, ect ect. I treat him like my own kid!!! What do you think of this situation? Should I bite the bullet and shell out a couple K to get my sister a TV, computer, and set up Internet and cable for a couple months in my name? In reality I have been saving a lot of money over the past few years so technically I could afford those things out of pocket.
