After watching last nights episode of Glee it got me thinking that my parents never talked to me about sex or diseases and such. I had to find out myself through going online and watching sex videos and through experimenting. When mom and dad left me home alone for a while I would always go on the computer and look stuff up as mom and dad always forgot to log off. When I was about 10 I had an encounter with a friend of mine who was a guy. He was also 10 and we were both curious and mom and dad never talked to me and nor did his parents to him so of course we experimented with each other down there. But at the time we did not know any better. I am currently 22 and yes I did take health class in middle school but that was all about drugs and alcohol. I took sex ed but they don’t make you take it until the 12th grade in my town and by then I knew all about it because I learned on my own. My parents always stayed away from the topic even if I asked as a kid and they never said anything.
Now my 12 year old sister who is in the 7th grade has no idea because my parents are so clueless that they must have no idea that in the US parents talk to their kids about this stuff at an early age. Some parents as early as 8 years old. So my sister has all these guy and girl friends over at the house all the time for play dates and such and every time I come to visit at the house I am asking myself what will happen the day she decides to experiment with a guy friend? I don’t even think she knows what a condom is and if I try to talk to her about this (which by the way would make me feel embarrassed) my parents would get really pissed at me. But I really care for her a lot and I want to make sure she is learning everything she needs to know before it gets too late and something happens that we can’t change.
What should I do? Should I just forget it and act like there is nothing to talk about? Or should I take a day for me and her and then tell her?
Sorry I should have mentioned I am a guy. Not a girl.
@Everyone who posted- Here is the deal- I know my parents and they will not talk to her at all no matter how important I make it sound. I have no idea why on earth they would not want to talk about it if it needs to be talked about. I know for some people this may seem a bit uncomfortable to talk to your kids about but she has a right to know. If I ask them to let me do the talk with her they will just say no also. I think this has to be talked about some way or another. So yes I will think about talking to her. Maybe one day I can take her to a movie or something and after we can talk about it like brother to sister talk like I usually have with her. She is understanding and a very smart young lady. So I know she would never make a mistake or do something like have sex especially without protection. But better air on the side of caution just to be safe. She seems to feel a lot better about herself when I talk to her about things. She goes through a lot of bullying sometimes and a kid
from her class told her she had a mustache one time so she came home and tried to use my moms razor to shave it off and she accidentally cut herself so my mom filed complaint with the school. After I talked to her she felt a whole lot better.
Again thanks for all your wonderful responses and support. John
@Douglas D I am not so sure there would be a legal matter here because she is family and I talk to her about things all the time like how school can be tough and how bullies can be mean sometimes and all sorts of things. She feels a lot better when I do the talking mostly because mom and dad talk but not so much. I think this would be a legal matter if I was not related to her and I was an adult who was non family. But I am family so I think the laws are different. And plus my parents would never press charges on me. They would tell me not to come by the house for a while but after that they would get over it. So I think there is no legal trouble here. It’s not like I am some sick p
sick perverted freak guy trying to do something illegal. All I am doing is having a talk with my sister who is family and I do this all the time with her.
